Neighbor sparks debate after sharing note he found on his car windshield from parent of ‘destructive’ child with ADHD: ‘That just seems lazy’
- A parent caused a stir after his ‘infuriating’ note to his neighbor
- A resident of an Australian apartment found a note left on the windshield of his car
- It was from a neighbor who advised them not to park in a particular spot
- The mother said their son, who has ADHD, could damage cars by throwing rocks
- She said anyone who parks there should ‘accept’ any damage caused by her son
- The note was shared online with thousands of people slamming the mum for being ‘lazy’
By Louise Allingham for Daily Mail Australia
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A relative’s handwritten note left on the windshield of his neighbor’s car has sparked heated debate online.
Posting on Reddit, an Australian resident shared a message left on her car by a relative warning her not to park her car in any particular spot because her son with ADHD and autism could damage it.
The mum said her son often drew on cars with markers and threw rocks at their apartment balcony and that she could only ‘preempt so much’ that anyone parked outside her house would have to ‘accept’ that her vehicle could be damaged.

A parent has been slammed online for leaving a note for his neighbor telling him not to park outside his house or to ‘accept’ damage to his car from his ‘destructive’ ADHD son
In the post, the parent described their son as ‘impulsive and destructive’ and said he had caused damage to cars since moving into the complex.
“He drew on my car with text, threw a few stones at the front of the complex and if a car was parked where this one is, it would have (would) have broken a window,” the message read, adding that the child had thrown ‘many objects’ from their balcony.
“I know I’ve talked a lot about parking cars out front here and that’s a huge factor. Me, as a parent of an ADHD/ASD child, I can’t anticipate that much. Please only park here if you are willing to accept damage to your car.
Thousands of people in the comments were outraged by the “infuriating” rating, with many criticizing the “lazy” parent saying they would still be liable for any damage to residents’ cars.

An Australian apartment dweller found the note on his windscreen saying the child had drawn on cars and thrown objects from the balcony since moving in
“It doesn’t matter if they feel like they did everything they could, they are still liable for damages, even if a child accidentally destroys something.” They’re not exempt because he’s ADHD and autistic,’ one person wrote
“How does that relieve you of your parental obligations? You’re the adult you’re supposed to be responsible for. Control your weird kids, don’t write bull notes and think it’s ok,’ a second replied.
‘Parent here of an unstoppable force of a child. It is avoidable. Most things are. Lazy parents are the problem,” a third commented.
Survey
Is the mom wrong?
- Yes 190 votes
- Nope 28 voices
However, some were sympathetic towards the mom.
“Some days it would be easier to have a child with any other disorder that people understand. Any solution that starts with ‘If the parents just…’ just comes from people who haven’t experienced it,” one woman retorted.
“Yes, there are naughty parents, which makes it harder for people to recognize when there are real neurological issues at play,” she continued.
The neighbor responded to the backlash saying he spoke to the woman and the couple had a “decent talk for about 10 minutes”.
“I could see they weren’t just projecting their problems onto us and were really trying to help their child.” The context can be difficult to read on paper,” he explained.
“We are all parents trying to do our best, and clear and effective communication is the best tool we have.”
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